Back when we were six, my brother developed a notorious sleepwalking habit among his various other disorders. So much so that dad child proofed the doors to our room and closet (after an unfortunate pissing incident involving a soiled pile of clothes) so that when we were awake, we could leave, but asleep, no dice. It was one of those plastic coverings that you had to squeeze and turn simultaneously, y’know, the ones that are impossible for anybody under the age of 18 to possibly hope to open due to the sheer amount of pressure it took to turn the knob. I’m being facetious now, but I really hated that child proof bullshit. But, due to his sleepwalking, he was kept on the bottom bunk. Some nights, he’d wake up and try to leave the room, tugging on the door and only succeeding in making an unnecessary amount of racket, only to fall back asleep at the foot of the door after his failure. Before the child proof door, there were only a select few places he’d go, but it became a game of hide and seek with him. I found him inside the toy box once, and I just remember thinking… “how did he even fit himself in there?” When these incidents happened – and that was at least three times a week – I took it upon myself to get him safely back in his bed when I actually caught him, so long as he didn’t wander past the stairs, which thankfully now wasn’t very possible. I hated the stairs. Well, not so much the stairs as the hallway that my room was at the end of leading to the stairs around the corner. That place was hellish at night. Yes, I was terrified of the dark. More so of my own wild imagination spurring the darkness to life with monstrous intents. I was sure we were plagued with a closet residing boogie man or a homicidal shadow dweller, maybe even the neighborhood serial killer. My father, God bless the man, every night before bed, he’d open the closet door, reach up and pull the dangling string to turn the light bulb on, – the switch had shorted on our sixth birthday- and search the closet for my own reassurance. Sometimes, he’d even make a show of it and enter with a baseball bat or a plastic gun, threatening the monster hiding in there. Every time he did it, there was nothing in that closet. There never was. My brother wasn’t afraid of the closet like I was. On the lower bunk, sometimes he’d climb the ladder and sleep with me after I’d been sitting up and staring at the closet for what seemed like hours. It was like my fear woke him up. They say twins have inexplicable bonds. I always had this strange sensation like I was being watched, or perhaps the feeling of knowing someone’s talking about you… I knew I held something’s attention. And that thought kept me up in such discomfort for what seemed like hours. In reality I probably had the attention span to stay up thinking for half an hour before succumbing to sleep. And stranger still, it wasn’t every night. In hindsight, that made me feel uneasy. If a child is afraid of the dark, weren’t they afraid of it every night? Don’t get me wrong, I feared the dark, but obviously I was safe under the covers. Most nights, it was merely a childish fear. And some nights, that fear evolved into uneasiness I can’t explain… like violation of my privacy. And no amount of blankets made me feel better. Something was there. And it was watching. I knew it was. I always expected to see a pair of glowing eyes behind the blinds of the closet door. But I never did. One night in particular stayed in my memory all the way into adulthood. The first detail that’s strange in hindsight is that I was already asleep. Something woke me up, not violently, but suddenly. And I still have no idea what. There was this cold that had settled on the room. And not like a winter cold that could freeze water, but this stale, stiff cold – like an abandoned house. The same stillness and cold I would feel several years later when grandmother died in her hospital bed and how her skin felt just minutes afterward. Lifeless. And a smell wafted through the air like really burnt steaks and rotten trash cans. I grimaced and said groggily “Geeze, did you fart?” Waving my hand in front of my face. There was no reply, so I dangled my head over the edge to peer at the lower bunk. Not surprisingly, he wasn’t in his bed. Illuminated dinosaurs chasing each other endlessly around our room projected from our spinning night lamp was the only source of light – a disco ball of dinosaurs if you will. I traced them around the room to find it empty with the exception of me. I knew that wasn’t true. Climbing down the ladder, my feet slapped against the wood floor sending an uncomfortable shock of cold up my legs. As I turned, the room seemed to widen. It was the moment that makes children gulp in uncertainty. The sudden loss of familiarity. I was in my room, but I felt uncomfortable, the same discomfort when you stare off of a cliff, knowing that one false step and you will die. Completely exposed. But I trudged on, searching for my misplaced sibling. He wasn’t on the floor in front of the door, he wasn’t on top or inside of our toy box… I dropped to my knees to find the space under the bed empty. Was it possible he somehow got out of the room? When he used to leave the room, there were three places he typically was. The hallway bathroom – notably curled up in the corner between the vanity and toilet, in dad’s old red chair in the upstairs living room right down the hall and to the left, or somewhere downstairs, a place I dare not tread in the darkness alone. I padded to the door and squeezed the plastic covered door knob with both hands, struggled with the damn thing for a moment and pulled it open. I was greeted with pitch blackness. The dark hallway now looming ominously in front of me. There were no windows, the only source of moonlight would be around the corner where a window was beside the staircase. The hallway wasn’t just dark, of course not. It was never that easy. No, it had to be pitch black. It made me even more uncomfortable, staring out into that blackness with my pulse steadily rising, I could hear my heart beating in my ears. Anything could be out in that darkness. I felt like I’d see a pair of eyes staring back at me. Whatever was in that darkness had no eyes, or at least, they didn’t glow like in the movies. But I jumped at the sight of a long, black shadow cast from behind me, freezing in terror as it disappeared. It happened again, casting my shadow across the hallway’s floor. The nightlight on our dresser that cast dinosaurs the walls of our room, and now out in the hallway. On the bright side, I had a source of light now. I was transfixed, staring out into the dark hallway as it lit up with the distorted dinosaur. I looked down, my toes were barely behind the baseboard that separated the wood flooring from the carpeted hallway. Before I crossed that line, I needed to make sure there was nothing hiding in that darkness. Anything could hide in shadows that black. The dim light flashed from behind me My eyes caught something unnatural… I could’ve sworn someone was pressed against the wall at the end of the hallway to the right, like they wanted to plaster their back to the wall. It didn’t really register until the light had already passed. I gulped, my body tensed uncomfortably, eyes locked on the darkness where that person had been standing. In this darkness, they could’ve moved wherever it saw fit to move. It could be five feet in front of me for all I knew. With that thought I was dreading the next pass of light. Did I really want to see this thing? Before I could even answer myself, the light passed over again, and the shadowy figure remained, unmoved. Because it was the shadow of the open bathroom door resting door knob length away from the wall. Just my imagination. I released a shaky breath, satisfied that the hallway was empty, and lifted my foot, slowly, unsteadily crossing my perceived line of safety out into the unprotected blackness of my house made foreign by the nighttime. My toes curled into the carpet, tensed like the rest of my body like I was holding onto the railing on a roller coaster. The light passed by again, and I kept my eyes peeled, stopping my movement completely as it did, just for safety. If I could just get to the bathroom, I could turn on the light. The hallway light was beyond the bathroom, so that was out of the question. I had to be brave. I traversed the darkness, taking long steps on my tippy toes just to stay quiet in case something were actually in that darkness. My whole body would stiffen when the light passed behind my back only to continue and try and cover as much distance as possible while I was still hidden by the shadows. The whole time I had that feeling of being completely exposed in this hallway, as if I were actually being hunted. I kept thinking; what if I’d missed something and now whatever it was was in the hallway moved behind me. I dare not turn. I pictured a vile creature staring right into the back of my head, breathing down the back of my neck. If I turned, I’d only be greeted by sickly, glowing eyes and a wicked smile. So I didn’t. But finally, I made it to the bathroom without incident, but my joy was short lived as I peered into the pitch blackness that was the bathroom. And this time, there was no dim light to chase away the shadows. If only for the brief moment. The light switch was on the left inside, right above the counter and under the medicine cabinet. I had to tippie toe to reach it. I gulped down my fear. Now or never. I strode inside with purpose and ignored the chill of having my back exposed yet again but to a completely unknown abyss. Even then, I couldn’t shake the feeling th
Did you know that public speaking tops the list of phobias for most people?Not snakes,spiders or heights,public speaking-speech in public!Public speaking is a very important part of extra-curricula activities,it helps today's students to become capable,responsible speakers and thinkers with strong focus on practical skills.Public speaking personalizes learning for every student to become confident,prepared with principle foundations ready to participate in teaching and coaching.Barrack Obama is probably one among the best public speakers of all time,calm,authoritative with a touch of human panache.The following are seven key steps in mastering public speaking. ▶Find Your Own Unique Voice Men are naturally better at public speaking than women.We are both wired differently.Women do a lot of thinking before speaking and take long to process what or how they are going to say it.Men have an advantage here, they keep their calm and let the mouth run with a little effort no to wander. ▶Discover Your Style of Presenting You may find that you are comfortable while standing,sitting or moving about.Understand that there is a difference between occupying the stage and pacing all over the stage.The former is a positive while the latter is not recommended.Also learn how to ingress and egress the stage in a manner that captures the audience's attention. ▶Eye Contact Always maintain eye contact with your audience.It helps to draw your audience into space and hence getting them in an attentive mood. ▶Rehearse An old proverb has it that practice makes perfect.Before comedians come on live TV shows,they spend hours even days getting in gear.Practise speaking in front of the mirror and see how you are fairing,the first one may be awful but the more you do it the more the improvement.Try out your several outfits and get the perfect one for a certain audience. ▶Match Your Public Voice with Your Virtual voice I have had the the opportunity to have a tète a tét with Kubamba radio's host Brian Aseli,he sounds a little bit different from how he sounds on radio.Many people sound different in person compared to listening to them from radio or social media.Record yourself on audio and video then identify your weak areas and rectify.You may also forward the recorded stuff to friends and let them advice you. ▶Perfect The Act of Sound bite Make your speeches shorter by cutting out all the excess.Be precise and simple but not boring. ▶Borrow from Comedy Comedy and public speaking are not far from each other.Engage your audience,take someone's hand and dance with them!Sashaying might be a good tactic for females but be careful not to over do it . The challenges in public speaking are plenty and most of them are just normal.It is okey to have your hands shaking,mouth drying,knees shaking,a quaver in your voice and a racing heart.Butterflies might invade your stomach and you get goosebumps.All these are just normal as the human body reacts to extremis when under pressure.This may be because you feel the audience will judge you,take you for a fool,fear of making mistakes,you may not be as good as Obama or feel that they may not like you.
If you happen to own some piece of land, make sure to utilize every square inch of it. You can eat direct from your garden and even sell the surplus. This ensures that you consume less commercially prepared products. Land is not really a big deal here, I have seen innovative Kenyans grow spinach, and sukuma wiki in gunny bags on the balcony of their flats. All you need to know is how to set up the bags with pebbles and soil and you are good to go. If you have an acre or more, focus on perennials because they require less care. Grow fruit trees and berries and preserve the seeds for future purposes. Be your own Mr/Miss Fixit. Simple plumbing and electrical jobs are easy to learn, trust me, you don't need to go to class. Turn your crafty skills into a flourishing profitable business. I have had the pleasure to meet people who can home make candles, lotions and soaps. Their products do not have any big difference from the ones we purchase from supermarkets and they are cheaper of course. Cleaning supplies are other DIY things that are easy to make. Vinegar has the power to remove stains than any detergent I know of, ignore the primetime ads on telly. Just try and see it for yourself. Baking soda makes shoe laces cleaner and brighter and can be used to remove bubble gum when it gets stuck on your jeans. Rare and sell animals. Some animals like pigs, goats, ducks and chicken do not need much space to raise. The price of chicken doubled in the last two years and the demand is still high. Eggs are no different, you can never produce enough eggs for these Kenyans. The rate at which we are eating eggs is amazing! And what about the foods made in high-end hotels that are made with eggs? Goat milk is more nutritious than ordinary cow milk, thought you should know. Pigs might be the clumsiest animals to keep but if you know their worth and do it well, you won't mind getting dirty. Rabbit meat is very tasty plus they grow fast and have a high birth rate. Build a compost pit to keep your food droppings and animal waste,you will make the best chemical free fertilizer for your vegetable garden and you won't spend a penny. Too much technology has had adverse effects on our farms and the food produced from it. Start a farm school and teach other interested farmers traditional know-how that has been so much forgotten as people rush to indulge in every new way of farming that arises. Alternatively, you can write about your experiences, use social media to your advantage. Someone will surely find your thoughts valuable. You can document your ideas everywhere online.
East Africa is a blessed region having the best tourist sites, diverse cultures and a welcoming people. From the cool climate of Rwanda to the sandy beaches of Mombasa, E.Africa says welcome home! However terrorism is the major risk threatening to deal the tourism sector the coup de grâce. The following are the top major sites to be on the bucket list of every traveller. 1 .LAKE PARADISE,MARSABIT. A secret lake wreathed in mist in the crater of an extinct volcano. The Lake Paradise is a green oasis surrounded by dusty desert in all directions found far north of Kenya. Some say it is a Noah's Ark or is connected with something out of this world judging from its name. It has a densely forested mountain around it and three crater lakes that provide a haven for a variety of birds, mammals and reptiles. Visitors get to eye witness the huge-tusked bull elephants and the singing wells. The dense forest is dark green during the April and November rainy season making it ideal for camel rides, hikes, bird watching. 2. ISIOLO-MOYALE HIGHWAY. The newly constructed highway has opened up to the world beautiful scenes along the road that were unheard of before. If you happen to be behind the wheels, drive carefully because you are likely to encounter herds of elephants and giraffes , Ostriches along the road. There is a massive rock with a sharp cliff and flat top standing within Kalamo conservancy. The Ewaso-Nyiro River acts like a magnet that attracts all the wild animals to quench their thirst forming a beautiful scene. The Shaba national reserve offers rocky kopjes, natural springs and doum palm. The Buffalo Springs national boasts off numerous elephants with Merti plateau visible from a distance. 3.MAASAI MARA. Located in Narok, South Western Kenya along the Tanzania border, it is 270km from Nairobi(4-5 Hours) by road and 40-45 minutes by flight from JKIA.The Maasai Mara is known worldwide for the annual wildebeest migration in the July-October season from its sister park, Serengeti national park. You might be able to see the Big 5 in a single day. Other animals also present include cheetahs, zebras, hippos. Zoologist estimate that there are over 95 species of mammals and over 570 bird species. Sightseeing is best from the aerial view of a hot air balloon as there are restricted number of vehicles to allow for more private game viewing. The December to February dry season is also good because the Big Cats come out to hunt the now emaciated herbivores.The animals mainly depend on the two rivers crossing the plain namely Mara and Talek. Maasai villages (enkangs) are also nearby and this is where you can walk without being vigilant for fear of deadly animals because morans will help you. 4.THE SERENGETI. Found in northern Tanzania, Serengeti which means endless plains, comes to life during the wildebeest and zebra migration season from their breeding ground in the southern plains. They go through a journey that separates the weaklings from the roughest and the toughest as they cross the crocodile infested Gurumeti river. Lobo hills in the serengeti are home to black eagles and black rhinos that inhabit the Moru kopjes. The Serengeti gets visited by about 900,000 people every year who come to experience this unique ecosystem. More than 250,000 wildebeests die during the treacherous journey from thirst, hunger exhaustion and predation. Buffaloes, spotted hyenas, gaudy agama lizards, rock hyraxes, outsized ostriches and over 100 varieties of dung beetles are what you expect to see when you visit the magical Serengeti. 5.WATAMU. A small peaceful village nestled between pristine beaches and lush tropical forests. It was first settled by the Swahili as a remote outpost at Gedi. Watamu is very undeveloped and natural. It boasts of major key sites like the Mida creek, The Marine park, The bio-ken snake farm, Watamu turtle watch to mention but a few. The shore is best for numerous water sports like surfing, windsurfing, kite surfing, yoga, pilates, scuba and snorkelling. You can put yourself down to rest after a whole day of fun at the Charming Lonno Lodge. 6.MT.KILIMANJARO. This one is for lovers of heights. It is Africa's highest at 5805m above sea level. A successful climb to the top may take 5-9 days depending on the route taken and number of hours per day. There are 5 climbing routes namely Machame, Lemosho, Marangu, Rongai and Mweka. The most scenic routes are Machame and Lemosho.Marangu is the easiest route to follow but you are advised to go with a licensed guide for safety purposes. Keep yourself warm because temperatures here drop as low as -20C to -25C.The mountain has 3 volcanic cones;Kibo,Mawenzi and Shira and has a unique caldera lake Chala thought to be the deepest inland body of water in Africa. The Kilimanjaro was ranked the leading tourist attraction in 2016 in Africa by World Travel Awards 7.LAMU. It said to be the oldest town in Kenya and a UNESCO world heritage site. Lamu is surrounded by crystal clear water and beautiful scenery. The place has a beautiful landscape and a historic background that offers a simple but luxurious life.Lamu has a matchless blend of natural beauty, sand, sea and shore that set the town apart. Vehicles are not welcome here, bicycles, donkeys and camels are the major means of transport, the alleys are very narrow for cars and buses. There is the Lamu fort built in Swahili architecture between 1813-1821 but it has now been converted to a museum and library. The Riyadha mosque serves as the little Mecca during the Maulid festival. The donkey sanctuary offers treatment services to ailing donkeys at no cost. In December, locals come together and organize a one-of-a-kind donkey race, that no visitor should afford to miss. 8.ZANZIBAR. Also known as Unguja among the locals(the Waswahili).Located along the coast of Tanzania, Pemba island and other smaller islets are the ideal serene hideouts for romantics and honeymoons. Apart from the stately palm trees and malachite water colour, the baobab blooming and fruit season from December to May attracts foreigners to experience the star striking beauty. The Baobab tree grows to a circumference of more than 10m and the fruit can be as long as 54cm.There are also a unique variety of bats known as the flying fox that are in plenty in January to August. The Marine Turtle nesting season begins in February and ends in July. Visit the Jozani forest between May and July for a chance to experience butterflies like never before and the rare red colobus monkey. Pemba is home to small fishing villages, historic ruins and miles of wild coastline. Like Lamu,there is limited infrastructure to let visitors have ample time without noise or disturbance. 9.LAKE NAKURU. Lake Nakuru is a shallow alkaline lake known for birds, hiking, picnic and dive games. There is a wide ecological diversity and varied habitats that range from the surrounding escarpment and picturesque ridges. The Bird Watchers' Paradise on the floor of the great rift valley surrounded by wooded and bushy grassland is one area that tourists flock to have a proper view of the birds. Flamingoes here can be found in vast numbers literally turning the lake pink. Studies show that there are over 400 species of birds around the lake. There are rare white rhinos, cape buffalo, African wild dog, zebra, eland, waterbuck and lions although leopard sightings are rare. Acacia and euphorbia forest become havens for Rothschild's giraffe and other animals on a hot day. The hippo pool is also a favorite spot for picnics.
God is always just but not always fair.Some women are blessed with triplets,quadruplets others like that Bungoma woman,seven babies,at once!Having a child is often seen as the pinnacle of humanity,being able to bring forth a life that is sacred.What is your fate then, if you happen to have a disorder in that you are not able to bear a child of your own?Society seems to discriminate against the infertile making them feel as if they are not human enough.They find themselves going to great lengths that are financially and emotionally draining to have children. 3 Million babies around the world are born through IVF(In vitro fertilisation) every year. Take the case of Ruth for example.She and her husband tried for about five years to get a child of their own. It all started at a Nairobi clinic where she was told she could not conceive because her husband's sperm could not swim nor fertilise an egg.Her doctor advised them to take up IVF treatment which he promised would give them a child so they agreed.They spent about Ksh.400,000 in their first attempt which did not bear fruit.Her friends then advised her to go to South Africa which became her second stop.She narrates that they spent about Ksh.600,000 in fares and accomodation in South Africa but still luck was not on her side as her two attempts in South Africa failed.Still determined,she made up her mind for a final push, this time in London.Her first test try failed but her second attempt almost got through only that she miscarried.She had now found hope that she could do it.She finally made it in her sixth attempt as she was able to carry her pregnancy to term giving birth to a baby girl she named Hope.Ruth says that the whole process cost them in excess of Ksh.4 Million and that they are still paying loans they took from their banks to accomplish this mission. Infertility is described as the failure to be able to conceive after a year or more of unprotected intercourse.In her Bestseller 'Am Taking My Eggs And Going Home' ,Lisa Manterfield shares her experiences as a woman unable to bear a child.In her book,she seeks to comfort fellow disadvantaged women and how to soldier on after the discovery.Studies show that the factors that determine whether IVF will be successful include the quality of the eggs,the man's sperm,the embryos,the uterus and the living and working environment.The husband's care and support is also crucial as is following the doctor's instructions.Chances of getting pregnant via IVF are higher in women aged 25-35 with a pregnancy rate of 40% compared to those aged 35-40 who have 20-30% pregnancy rate and are likely to spend more. Living with the guilt of not being able to bear a child may make one depressed.To conquer this,build your network of supportive and understanding men or women.Find free resources to help you deal with family-lessness.You have to recognise that a fertility problem is a crisis.The faster you acknowledge ,face and accept the situation earlier the quicker you will heal.Identify and share your feelings with close friends and family.Being too complicated would not give you a chance to help others to help you.Do not blame yourself for past mistakes be it an abortion you undertook many years ago,it has got nothing to do with your present situation.Avoid negative thinking patterns and resist the temptation to get angry with self.Look forward to how you are going to manage the situation you are in.Engage your partner so that you work as a team.Take keen interest in what your partner is going through and don't blame each other.Find practical ways to deal with the burden,you can share responsibilities so that as the woman goes through treatment,the man takes care of insurance paperwork or vice versa. To be able to make informed decisions,you will need to educate yourself.Technologies behind treatment are complicated and change quickly.Ask your physician questions to get a clear understanding.Set a limit on how long you are willing to try.Some people may go to extremes,taking huge bank loans,selling property,withdrawing all their savings to exhaust all treatment options.Others try every artificial method in the offing in order to conceive.Decide with your partner,how much you are willing to pay.Seek support from professionals and other people with fertility problems.When the worse comes to the worst,say NO to baby focused activities and pursue other interests or hobbies.And remember,laughter is really the best medicine,watch a funny movie,go to Carnivore for Churchill live or find a funny novel to indulge in.
There are countless benefits of being multi-lingual. For Your Information, Manchester United coach Jose Mourinho learned coaching from being a translator for famous 90s coach Sir Bobby Robson . Mourinho is a fluent speaker of the six major languages of Europe. Learning a language can be hefty task but if you follow these simple nine steps you will find it easy learning a foreign language. 1. KNOWING YOUR LEARNING STYLE. What kind of a learner are you? You might be a visual, auditive or a kinesthetic learner. There are people who learn quickly through repetition, writing down notes or listening from a native speaker. A visual learner is that person who might read a foreign language and still remember what they read the next day. An auditive learner learns quickly by having someone read to them while a Kinesthetic learner attaches feelings and emotions to what he has read in order to remember easily. From there, you can tell where you feel at home best. 2. READ Start with simpler books to difficult ones. Make effort to read without referring to the dictionary oftenly .Find a book in your native language translated to the language you are learning. Try using popular magazines like Forbes or purchase a dictionary (a digital version is also available online). 3. SPEAK IT Make friends with native speakers, you can connect on Skype if they aren't in your area. A language school can also be ideal in learning a new language. Learn complex things like idioms, proverbs and expressions. Never be embarrassed when talking with native speakers because it takes time to learn a language. 4. MEMORIZE Memorize at least 30 words and phrases each day and within three months you will have learnt 80% of that language. Start with the most common words. Here’s a simple formula ▫write each word a dozen times ▫Try using it in different sentences ▫Remember to practise the word when you move on to the next. 5. PRONUNCIATION This is where the dictionary proves an important tool in learning a new language. A two-language dictionary e.g Swahili-German dictionary may help you learn vocabularies and pronunciation. The pronunciation of a word is found just after the part of speech. Languages might have the same alphabet but this does not mean they are pronounced the same. You might also find audio recordings helpful. 6.GRAMMAR Grammar is the most important aspect in language besides vocabulary. In mastering a new language, look at the structure and how to use articles for masculine, feminine or neutral. If you do not take grammar into consideration you may sound incomprehensible. Learn also how to express questions in affirmative and use statements in past, present and future. 7.THE ALPHABET You will first have to learn the alphabet if you are the language you are learning uses a different system of the alphabet like Chinese and Hindu. One of the surest ways of learning an alphabet is associating images to each letter and sound. In some cases, you will have to get used to reading from right to left. Start with simple books like comic books or children's books to more difficult and complex ones the likes of newspapers and novels. 8.LISTENING Reading is very useful to auditive learners. Learn through watching movies and TV shows in that language. Audio language apps like Duolingo might also help you to learn a language very quickly, all you need is dedication and patience. Learn also by listening to music in this language e.g if you are learning Korean, listen to Psy's Gangnam style and sing along to the chorus and learn the rap verses gradually. 9.PRACTICE Always allow other people to correct you when talking, since you are the one learning here. Test your mastery of the language by speaking with native speakers in public. Do not hesitate to take up a translator's job when it comes in your way. If you love watching football and what a good thing this digital era has brought us decoders or set top boxes that allows you to select the language you would like in the commentary. DSTV offers its subscribers a choice of either English, Portuguese and Spanish. Lets give it a try, salvave animam meam.
Our beloved Kenya is a blessed nation. Blessed in both good and bad ways. At one time we are trending on the international scene as our athletes tear the world apart, at another time the newspaper headlines are screaming "Kenya ranked third most corrupt state" I was watching the news the other day and a particular item caught my eye. A woman and five kids had perished in a night fire that had consumed their house in Laikipia County. In the impromptu interview, the landlord did not appear shaken. I am not sure whether the fellow knew the grave danger he was in. His rental houses ought to have been fitted with fire extinguishers, isn’t that the law these days? At least that could have saved a life or two but from whatever perspective you view this just understand that poverty and corruption are linked to this. According to the World Bank,46% of Kenyans live below the poverty line,to a layman this means that a majority of Kenyans can survive on less than a dollar per day. The organisation also found that poverty is concentrated in the rural areas. Kenya being a third world country, more people rely on farming as their main source of livelihood.79% of Kenyan households practise farming. This is where the problem with this country lies, over-reliance on agricultural produce. This century so far has had the most unpredictable climate patterns across the world. However, Sub-Saharan Africa (where we lie) has been the most affected by this crisis. Despite Asia and the Americas going through the same, they have not been hit as hard. China and the US have well planned strategies to safeguard their people from unavoidable humanitarian crises. Its a good thing however to see shape shifting millennials starting to take interest in farming. The youth have discovered the millions in poultry farming, cucumbers and watermelons among many others. Karen is next to the expansive Kibera slum ,Donholm neighbors Kayole, Kangemi has Kitisuru and Mountain View nearby while Mathare borders Muthaiga on the other side of the Thika Superhighway,see the connection? Unless you landed in Kenya last night, you know that the rich and the poor live side by side. From my high school biology, this is the relationship that we referred to as symbiosis. The explanation is quite simple, the rich suburbs mentioned above are run by ghetto people. From househelps, guards, grounds people, plumbers to drivers all reside in the ghetto. From my point of view, Parliament has let us down. Instead of hunting down fair government officials like the auditor general and the salaries and remuneration commission chair, they could have a sober sitting to come up with a law compelling the filthy rich to support a family or two in the slums. The relationship between poverty and high birth rate is direct. In my class our lecturer used this analogy while urging us to work extra hard. That in a poor home when there is hardly any kerosene in the lanterns, the family has no option but to retire to bed early to save the fuel since the kids have to wake up early to attend school the next day. While at it, the husband and wife get tempted to have a bit of "quality time”. In a few weeks time the woman becomes expectant and this cycle continues. A small family of three grows rapidly to six or more in just a few years .According to research, poor families have 4-6 kids per household while their well of counterparts have 1-2 kids per household. The remedies to poverty need not be far-fetched. We have ways within us to tackle this menace. Talents are God-given gifts to everyone in the society. Ever heard of THT? The Tanzania House of Talent has proved to Africa the simplest way of quenching biting unemployment, that is, investing in the youth. The project has helped thousands of youth get self-employment in sectors they have passion in. On the contrary, the rich in Kenya are not likely to invest in their country. They would rather travel the world seeking tax havens to safeguard their wealth. A big salute to football brothers McDonald Mariga and Victor Wanyama for setting up a soccer academy to tap young talents. There is also a combined effort by athletes from Eldoret to set up an athletics track and field in the world renowned Iten. Apart from sports, another sector that has received a boost recently is acting and comedy, thanks to all local media houses that have allocated airtime for local shows. Special thanks to Maisha Magic East crew who have given local actors a platform to showcase their talents to the world. All these efforts show that we can make it if we try.The holy scripture says "fan into flame the talents God has given us".
Every time I read the Bible in the book of Revelations and listen to Harry Styles' Signs of the times ,the cancer disease comes into the picture. My Friend Hemstone In the year 2000, he lost his grandfather whom he was so much emotionally attached to. Just as he was about to clear high school in 2012,tragedy struck again. Another family strongman, sadly, kicked the bucket. He was brother to his grandfather who had died earlier. The two brothers died in their 70s reportedly from cancer related illnesses, the former from a cancer tumour in the tooth while the latter died from throat cancer. Does it mean he is also at risk of cancer? The answer to this question lies in screening which I have been postponing day in day out. However, cancer is not entirely genetic but may occur from unhealthy lifestyle behavior. Cancer is the number three disease responsible for mortality in Kenya. A contributing factor to this is that 80% are diagnosed to have cancer at its advanced stages becoming a tall order to treat. From research though, even when diagnosed early and attacked with the latest treatments, cancer still has the power to kill. A "wholesale cure" for cancer remains elusive up to date for many reasons. There are more than 100 types of cancer characterized by cell growth. Its causes range from radiation to chemicals to viruses and its growth is unpredictable sometimes mysterious .In some patients, cancer can resurface after treatment to claim the life of the sufferer. The following are the top ten most deadly types of cancer: ◾Breast Cancer, the second most common cancer in women but can also occur in men. It forms in the ducts that carry milk from the glands to the nipples or glands that produce milk. ◾Colon and Rectal Cancer grows in the tissues of the colon. Screening is recommended to to cure polyps in case they are found before becoming cancerous. ◾Esophageal Cancer starts in the cells that line the lower part of the food-pipe .This type of cancer kills more men than women. ◾Leukemia affects blood -forming tissues of the body such as the yellow bone marrow and the lymphatic system which results in the overproduction of the white blood cells. ◾Liver and Intra hepatic duct Cancer is one of the most common cancer forms around the world. In most cases, it occurs elsewhere then spreads to the liver. ◾Lung and Bronchial Cancer is most common in people in the age bracket of 55-65.The main cause of this type is smoking and use of tobacco. ◾Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma is deadlier than its sister, Hodgkin lymphoma. It affects lymphocytes(a type of white blood cells). ◾Ovarian Cancer is the most common among women with a median age of 63.It is easy to treat but harder to detect in its early stages. ◾Pancreatic Cancer begins in the tissues of the pancreas.Detection and early treatment are difficult because it often progresses stealthily and rapidly. ◾Prostate Cancer is every man's nightmare. It is the second leading cancer in men, Some forms of this cancer are easier treat but others are more aggressive and spread quickly. According to doctors, healthy behaviour could prevent about half of cancer deaths. Here are some lifesaving tips to keep cancer at bay. ⚫Shy away from smoking and use of tobacco. Do not relent if you have been trying to quit smoking. ⚫Make arrangements to get regular screening. For more information like at what age to start and intervals, consult your physician. ⚫Reduce your alcohol consumption if you cannot completely stop. A drink a day for ladies and two for gentlemen is the dosage. It wont do you any good to 'save up' all your drinks for the week then take in excess during weekend. Its all about sacrificing. ⚫Keep a physically active lifestyle. Engage in a few exercises here and there, they do help in the long run. ⚫Keep your weight in the normal range for your height(BMI).Let it be 25 or less. Try to stay within 2 to 5 kgs of what you weighed at 18. ⚫Avoid exposure to cancer-causing substances. Avoid at all costs radiation of some banned chemicals. ⚫Eat a plant-based diet which has been proved to be a cancer-risk -reducing diet. Keep red meat no more than 100 grams. ⚫Avoid sugared drinks ,juice, desserts, candies, refined breads, bagels and chips.
The millenial generation is made up of people born in the mid 70s to the early years of this century.Boundaries between generations are not always clear as some researchers say millenials are born between 1980-2000 while others put it at 1977-2004.This is the most studied and talked about generation.In the USA, it is believed that millenials handed former president Barrack Obama the victory in the Democrat party nominations in 2008.About the 2016 US election,Columbia professor Jefferey Sachs says it was a blip on the road to the egalitarian society that will be achieved once millenial voters completely outnumber their conservative elders.Here are some few things worth knowing about millenials. Millenials are technologically savvy,they adopt faster to computer and internet services.According to Geopoll,betting is highest among Kenyan youth compared to youth from other African countries.The youth prefer accessing news via social media rather than mainstream.Whatsapp is the most used social network at 56% while Facebook is quite far at 31%.Millenials use their devices not only for fun and games but also for purposes of research and education.They have a positive attitude towards technology compared to their predecessors,the baby boomers. We,young people are civic oriented.Studies show that we focus on larger societal needs rather individual needs.We consider government to have the greatest potential to address society's biggest issues.Young people feel that the government has a negative impact on unemployment,resource scarcity and income inequality. Youth are entrepreneurial owing to the fact that they have grown up to watch Steve Jobs lead the renewed Apple and Mark Zuckerberg create a social media sensation.Closer home, young people have drawn inspiration from comedian Churchill Ndambuki of the Churchill show,Oscar winner and celebrated actress Lupita Nyong'o and the sucessful music group Sauti Sol.More millenials are joining the freelance ranks.Research shows that millenials have launched twice as many businesses as baby boomers and at an earlier age of 27 compared to baby boomers' 35. Millenials are pragmatic idealists,they believe in their dreams and the only thing that stands between them and reality is their own hands to make it happen.They feel personally responsible to make a difference.They say,"We want to change the world and we know it's not going to be easy but we have to crate a plan to get there". These generation comprises of people who are mostly liberal.Millenials are likely to support the legalization of marijuana.Medical tests have proved that bhang is less harmful than alcohol.Young people feel that it does not make sense to legalize alcohol that has caused medical complications and put people in jail for marijuana. Millenials are compassionate.They consider it very important/essential to help other people to address a social or political problem.They always want to be a part of changing and improving lives and have quite a bit of disdain for selfishness. Members of this generation are multi-taskers,they excel at juggling several tasks at one practical use of their time e.g listening to a lecture online while exercising or doing laundry or texting while cooking.Geopoll says 40% of millenials carry their phone to the washroom.81% go to bed with their devices while 31% admitted to always carrying a powerbank incase their phones went off. Millenials are nomadic as they try to free themselves from social and financial pressure.Their style of communication is also nomadic,they use coded or abbreviated text.They love and expect communication ability to remain in constant touch wherever and whenever.They want to obtain services irrespective of their geographical location. In this generation,people are impatient.They cannot hold attention for more than 8 seconds.On demand services like Google,Netflix,Uber dont add to their patience either.They expect gratification,instant answers and services. Millenials are adventurous.They have a desire to visit every continent and travel abroad as much as possible even if it involves working.You will agree with me that there are many Tanzanians at the Gikomba market.Word on the grapevine says that they are from a tribe known as Chagga the Kikuyu equivalent over here according to their engagement in business.
I don’t want pain. I don’t do risks. I can’t handle torture. I don’t do neither mornings nor nights. I’m not content with what I have, I’m not where I want to be, I have so much potential but it’s not my time yet, maybe someday. I know you’ve heard people say the above statements before, or maybe not. Maybe you yourself have, haven’t you? See! I knew it. Oh well if I was a good friend of yours, I mean like those that care about your wellbeing and what not, I’d be telling you that pain is the greatest feeling because it changes you; body, mind and soul. I’d tell you how torture strengthens people and builds endurance. I’d be asking you to pick a struggle; either day or night, I mean you just can’t be neither a morning nor night person that’s just way too much sleep for one body and I’d be telling you that risks push people to where they’d like to be or where they’d never dare to be but got there anyway. I’m, however, not your friend. I’m not your enemy either. If I were though, its obvious I’d be telling you the complete opposite of what a true friend would, but baptize you with that information in such a way that you’d think I’m your John the Baptist when I’m really just something else. Since I wouldn’t like this to be the type of article where I do all the writing and you all the reading, how about we engage in a meaningful sort of discussion and hopefully by the time we get to the conclusion bit, well both be at the same page. Does that sound interesting enough? Well. Firstly I’d like us to understand what we’re trying to get at here; comfort and fear and how these two have hindered or maybe helped us in our quest to make our dreams come true or in achieving our goals. So let’s agree that I’m not going to be bombarding you with quotes from Martin Luther, Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey and who not, you could very well do that on your own without my help. Let’s get on with it then, shall we? What does comfort mean to you? What does fear mean to you? Do you think the two have hindered people (or in this case you) from achieving their goals? According to me, comfort (not in its literal meaning) is a feeling that you don’t need to add anything extra to what already exists, like some sort of contentment or satisfaction. For example, if you’ve been reading a book a day, you have no plan of making time for another. If you’ve been earning ‘x’ amount of money for the past ten years you have no intention of changing that anytime soon. If you’ve been working ‘x’% hard and have been receiving ‘y’ amount of success, you’re content with that. This means you’re in a comfort zone. But, where’s the problem in that? Can’t a person just have a limit to the amount of time and effort they invest in something? Well, the world we live in is a fast pace world. Whatever was yesterday, is no longer today and even if it is, it’s bigger, better, more expensive, more advanced, name it. Because the world is changing and it isn’t waiting for you to decide whether you want to keep up or not, you need to make that decision real quick before you wake up from your stupor and realize it’s a thousand years later and there’s nothing you can do about your situation because you don’t even know what the hell is going on. Our goals, dreams have a time frame. Wherever we sit down to jot and meditate upon them, we keep reminding ourselves that by at least this time or this age, I need to achieve this and this and this. Time and the world aren’t fixed entities, and as I said earlier they don’t wait for no one. If one remains in the state that nothing needs to change, yet everything else around them is changing, what does that tell you? That they are likely not to get wherever they want to be, they’re being left behind. Fear on the other hand, in my opinion, is a mental situation where one is scared of trying something because they either are scared of the process, they are uncertain of the consequences or they create a negative mentality based on other people’s experiences. Yes, fear has hindered a lot of people from achieving their goals. The biggest fear is the fear of failure and self-doubt, which most of us have had tattooed on our minds so that they act like some kind of forewarning. So and so did this and they failed miserably at it what makes you think you’re any different, what are people going to think about you, about this, you’re not good enough, you’ll never amount to anything. In as much as this are very vital questions in pursuit of our goals, they shouldn’t be the reason to hold back. Instead, they should be an evaluation and motivation towards excellence. Once you’re held back by fear, the only thing your life will be about is the-could-have-beens and the what-ifs. The danger of being held back by comfort is you never even know you had to invest in extra time or money or effort until it’s a little too late. With fear it can be dealt with before everything is out of hand as long as you’re alive, comfort doesn’t give you the luxury of its knowledge, not unless you’re a smart lad. At least the fear is of failure at something you love, unlike comfort which could be success at something you hate that you have come to terms with. So fear or comfort? Which is the bigger demon? Which is the harder struggle? Which one has hindered more people? Which one has put out more desires to succeed? Burnt out the fires? Left people stuck in their mediocrity? Comfort.
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